I can’t say for sure that we all experience this. But I am confident that most of us have.
It’s kinda like a thief in the night. You don’t know when you’re gonna have it. Maybe you just woke up, or you’re studying for your majors, or watching a duck live its fabulous life. And then suddenly, you’re struck with a toxic thought.
I am not enough.
It’s one thought. One single thought. But it bears so much power that it could lead to other toxic thoughts. It’s one wobbly chip on the edge of a domino chain. The moment it falls, everything else follows.
And it could be the most awful feeling you could possibly have.
Here are 5 reminders for when it happens.
1 | You’re achieving just by living
This is a brilliant quote I got from one of the ever-inspiring Bianca Bass’s posts. And she’s absolutely right. The fact you’re here right now, that you’re living and striving to get past every obstacle thrown your way is more than enough.
2 | You matter. Always.
I know it’s hard to see sometimes, especially when you’re wrapped tightly around the thought that you aren’t. And you have this nagging feeling that no one thinks you do.
But try to get past that. Look beyond the fog blurring your mind and you’ll see. There are people who look at you with concern in their eyes. Who look at you and see you. And the first person you should look beyond that fog? Your self.
Stand in front of the mirror. If it hurts looking at your reflection, grab one of those tiny ones and bring it close enough that all you can see is your eyes. Those eyes know you matter. They know.
3 | You have made the best of difficult moments
Remember #1? When I said you were striving past every obstacle handed to you? Now, think of all the awful situations you’ve been in before. Look over your shoulder to them. Then look at where you are now. You got through them. Isn’t that amazing? I think it’s amazing. And maybe you brought with you scars. But you are here. While what you’ve passed through is over there way back behind you. It reminds me of that line in Hamilton’s “That Would Be Enough.”
“Look at where you are
Look at where you started
The fact that you’re alive is a miracle
Just stay alive, that would be enough”
4 | You are bigger than any obstacle
You are stronger than any difficult situation. Remember those past obstacles you got through? Use them as a reminder that whatever else you’ll face ahead, you can get past it.
5 | Have faith that everything will come together
I know that when you’re at your lowest, this can seem far-fetched. Sometimes I still catch myself thinking, “Really? Something good is out there? Why does that seem foolishly hopeful?” But do you really think that pain is just there for no purpose other than to let you suffer?
Actually, you can think that.
You can think everything and everyone exist to be against you. And the problems you are facing? Maybe they’re there just to hurt you.
OR, you can learn from them. You can carry the scars you got as a reminder, that you are tough and there is something beyond those challengers. And you can bring the experiences with you forward into your journey.
I understand how hard it must be when you suddenly feel all the worries and doubts creeping in and spreading all throughout your body. And you feel worthless. But please know that you are MORE than that.
You are not worthless.
You deserve happiness and assurance and the most awesome rainbow Mother Nature can provide.
Because you are you.
And that’s enough.
If you ever need someone to talk to, please don’t hesitate on contacting me via email or through my social media accounts. All my inboxes are always open for you 🙂